“A real woman avoids drama, she knows her time is precious and shes not wasting it on unimportant things”

I came across this quote that really struck a cord with me and made me want to talk about it.  Growing up I was born into a home full of drama.  My parents weren’t the happiest of couples but they tried their very best to give me a good life.  Not only that, the rest of my family was the same way.  I grew up around drama so drama was all I ever knew.

When I started dating, all of my relationships were filled with drama too!  It was always such a toxic and unhealthy relationship but because I was so used to being around drama, I stayed.

Many people I know are the same way.  All they know is how to live with drama rather than how to live without drama.   It took me awhile to come to my senses and learn that living with drama is not the healthy way of life.

When I decided to take a new road on life, I took a leap of faith and gave God control over my life.  That is when I realized how much nicer it is to live with peace.  These days, I am so afraid of confrontation because I don’t want to go back to that drama filled life.  I live my life with no drama and let me tell you, it is absolutely beautiful.

When I gave up on the drama, I realized I became a real woman.  When I was in my 20’s, I thought I knew everything.  I mean, who doesn’t think that way in their 20’s??  We all thought that we had life all figured out but then again, we come to realize that we had it all wrong.  Well, at least that is what I came to realize.

Being a real woman is not as easy as it sounds though.  A real woman carries herself with class and knows when to open her mouth and knows when to keep it shut.  Having self control is a big step in life.  Being able to walk away from drama is also a huge step.  It takes a lot to be the bigger person and walk away.  Knowing your worth, is also what a real woman knows.  I didn’t know what my worth was until I found peace and happiness within myself.  It then, became clear to me,  I am worth a lot more than I realized.

Time is precious, life is borrowed.  We need to remember that we are on borrowed time and we need to make each moment count.  Real women know what to spend their time on and can distinguish the difference with what is important and what is not.

Be careful though, when you grow up and become a real woman, or I should say an adult, that is when you also realize who you want to be around.  You will also lose friends and also keep your distance from family members to keep your sanity and continue to live a drama free life.

I have family members that I love and used to be so close to but had to keep a distance from because the life they live is toxic and full of drama.  It does not mean I love them any less, it just means that I don’t want to waste my time on unnecessary drama.

In the bible you can read this scripture:

“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” 2 Corinthians 5:17 (NLT)

For me, I became a new person when I submitted myself to God.  Most of you may or may not know that but this is when I found peace and I was reborn and turned into a real woman.

From then on is when I was on the road to living a drama free life! My husband is the same way.  He also had his journey on the same path… The path of being reborn.  We are both children of Christ and we understood the meaning of peace, love and happiness before we became one.

A household rule of ours is, leave your drama at the door and if you cause any in our house, we will kindly as you to leave.

Here are some ways to live a drama free life:

1. Stay away from drama Queens or Kings.
2. Surround yourself with positive people.
3. Re-Evaluate your life and the people you keep in it.
4. Stay focused on your own life and not other peoples.
5. Don’t gossip or judge others.
6. When you hear someone talking bad about someone else, don’t join in.  Walk away!
7.  Speak up when you need to but don’t start an argument.
8.  Think positive and be open-minded.
9. Don’t get mad right away, analyse the situation beforehand and come up with a solution.
10.  Smile more!

Here are some benefits of living a drama free life:

1.  It will help you sleep better at night and wake up in a better mood.
2.  You will be a much more pleasant person to be around.
3.  Your outlook on life will be different.
4.  You will live in the moment and be more open-minded.
5.  You will notice that other will look up to you.
6.  It will make you look younger.
7.  You will become more successful.
8.  You will be able to focus and concentrate better.
9.  It will make you lovable.
10.  You will want to live longer.

I hope that this helps clear your mind and that you take the necessary steps to live a life without drama.  If it seems impossible to do, let me be your proof that it CAN happen.  You just have to put in the work and I promise you, when you get there you will find yourself with a bigger and brighter smile!