When it comes to dressing up for your husband or significant other, we always want to look our best.  I get it, but that doesn’t always mean dressing sexy though.  I’ve said this before and I will say it again… There is always a time and place for that.

“Elegance is not being noticed, it’s about being remembered” – unknown

When it comes to a Military function, one should ALWAYS dress appropriately.  We should always keep in mind that we shouldn’t dress up as if we are trying to impress the crowd or compete with them either.

My husband is in charge of many Marines and when it comes to a promotion ceremony or function of that sort, the wives are always welcome to attend.  Most of the time I am there to show support regardless if it is a ceremony for my husband or not.

The wives don’t always come dressed appropriately.  My husband and I had this conversation and said that either 1.) Their spouse did not inform their wives of what to wear and what NOT to wear, or 2.) The wives just don’t care or know any better.

I have been to, one too many functions where I witness this firsthand. My husband and I would find ourselves looking at each other side ways because we both are wondering what and why s spouse thought is was okay to come dressed a certain way. For example, I attended a Re-Enlistment Ceremony recently and I was in shock at how some of the wives dressed.  A Re-Enlistment Ceremony is where a Marine swears under oath to protect and serve our country for 4 more years.  In the Marine Corps, a Marine serves a four year term and after the contract is completed, they have the choice to stay in or get out.

One of the wives showed up in her gym outfit… Really? Put it this way, I won’t judge when it comes to wearing gym clothes all day everyday because that is what I do, regardless if I am going to the gym or not, but to a ceremony? Come on!  I want to give everyone the benefit of the doubt that we are smarter than that but sometimes I just can’t help it.

Another wife showed up in a dress so short that when she sat down she had to use her purse to cover her private area, and when she stood up, she had to shimmy the dress down so she wasn’t baring it all.  You don’t think that’s bad? Well, I am not done yet.  I forgot to mention she was 8 months pregnant.

There were three others there but they were dressed appropriately for the occasion.  They wore business casual attire which was perfect.  Come on ladies, try to keep this quote in mind when dressing up, “Elegance is not being noticed, it’s about being remembered” … My husband and I will always remember these specific woman as the one who showed up wearing…………

I understand that we all have our own sense of style.  I also understand that dressing like a politician’s wife may not be our thing.  It sure isn’t mine, but needless to say, if I have to look like a politician’s wife for a day to blend in with the environment that I am in, then that is what I will do.

There were many times I have put my outfits aside the night before and ended up going with something else the next day.  There are even times I told myself that this time I will not dress up and I will wear jeans with a cute blouse.  Yeah well, that never happens and I always end up being grateful that I didn’t.

My advice for all Military spouses, look your best but dress appropriately.  Don’t ever be worried that you will be over dressed.  Be worried that you will be under dressed.  If you have the attitude like you don’t care what others think then just remember how you will be viewed.  Also, remember that you are representing your husband as well.

From what I have seen lately, the higher the rank, the more likely it is for the wives to look the part.  The lower the rank, the likely it is for the spouse’s to not care so much on how they are viewed and how they represent their service member.

Here is a black dress I wore to another Military function.  I didn’t feel sexy in it but I felt very classy and well groomed in it.  My husband actually says that he thinks it is very sexy to be covered up in the right way.

This dress was perfect.  A black dress is always the classiest way to go.  This dress is from StyleWe.  I ordered it online and I am very pleased with it.  I will have to recommend to look at the size charts because it runs very small.  I am typically a medium or a size 6 or 8 in dresses and I almost cried when it came in and the tag showed XXL.  I just wanted to give you a heads up on the sizing so you won’t be surprised like I was.  Other than that, this place is one of the online stores that I get my dresses from.

Remember ladies, wear a short sexy dress for date night or the club, wear a long gown to the ball or gala, wear jeans to go shopping or to the movies, wear active wear to the gym or to do errands and DON’T wear it to a Military function of any kind, of course, with the exception of Family Day.

Present yourself with pride and dignity and remember you are a representation of your spouse so look your best in the classiest way possible!

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